How Did I Arrive Here

My interest in death and the dying process began many years ago. In 1981, my husband’s grandfather died alone in the hospital. At the time, we didn’t realize his death was near. When we learned he had died by himself, I felt a deep and lasting sadness—an ache rooted in the thought that, had we known, we would have been there. That feeling stayed with me: we could have done better.

Years later, I became a hospice volunteer. That role was both life-changing and deeply affirming, and it strengthened a belief I still hold today: no one should have to die alone.

Through my hospice work and personal experiences, I have walked alongside many people at the end of life. Each experience reinforced the sense that there is often more we can do—to foster peace, ease physical discomfort, and provide emotional and spiritual support not only for the dying person, but also for those who love them.

A Whisper and a Nudge

As I entered this chapter of life, I found myself asking important questions: How do I want to spend my time? How can I give back? What truly matters to me now? I still feel vital and deeply aware of the value I bring. I have both the time and the desire to make a meaningful difference in people’s lives.

The answer became clear as I sat beside my daughter-in-law while her father was dying. In that quiet, sacred space, I kept hearing an inner voice whisper, “What are you waiting for?” That moment became the gentle nudge I needed to fully step into this calling.

Important to Remember

Death is a natural part of life. Just as we have choices in how we live, I believe we deserve choices in how we die. Being informed, supported, and comforted at the end of life truly matters.

It is also important to remember that our dying loved ones can teach us so much. As people approach the end of their lives, the role of dying takes on profound meaning. Many feel a deep desire to share wisdom, pass on memories, and give away meaningful keepsakes. They may seek to mend relationships, establish their legacy, make peace with God, and find reassurance that those they leave behind will be okay.

Above all, people want the opportunity to complete their life story on their own terms. This process is deeply meaningful—not only for the dying, but for those who remain.